Love and Relationship

Introduction

As a child, I was captivated by fantasies of love.

  • I clung to the fairytale notion that "To say "I love you" takes only 3 seconds, to explain it takes 3 hours, but a lifetime to prove it."

However, as I matured, hearing numerous divorces around me shattered my belief.

  • For better or worse, marriage is built on shared happiness, while divorce stems from the belief that separation is preferable, albeit painful.



The Truth

Reality of Relationship

Many relationships ignite with the thrill of discovering another's mystery, but quickly fade as the mundane routine of daily life sets in.

  • After all, love is a conscious choice to prioritize your partner's well-being, requiring efforts and self disciplines on your part.
  • As my friend wisely says, everyone carries a string of problems, and choosing to love someone entails accepting these complexities as well. Hence, it is better to choose someone who sparks your interest, not just someone to avoid loneliness.

Furthermore, being in a relationship can mean sacrificing some freedom, as you become responsible for someone else's well-being.

  • Open and honest communication are essential, as unspoken doubts and unresolved issues can slowly erode trust, ultimately leading to a break-up.

Frequently, even when we know a relationship needs to end, many people cling on, collecting evidence of unfulfilled promises until they have enough justifications (disappointments) to leave with no regrets.

  • But once the decision is made, there is no turning back.



Summary

While all encounters in life were fate and destiny, if a relationship feels worth fighting for, fight for it.

  • Afterall, life already presents enough uncontrollable challenges; do not let missed opportunities become unnecessary regrets.
  • Meeting someone by chance is like searching for a single grain of sand on a vast beach - the chances are indeed slim.

Remember, relationships are not one-sided decisions.

  • If you encounter unresponsive silence, gently accept it and move on.
  • Embrace self-care, explore new passions, and open yourself to possibilities.

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